Where is true love?

People talk about love in different ways.. Different situations. There are so many movies about Love. Everyone needs love. But can you tell me where is this "True Love" ? or "Unconditional Love" ?

Love another soul for nothing! Not even love in return!
Lets talk about the Mother's love.

When a lady is pregnant, she makes a lot of sacrifices for the unborn kid. When the child comes out to see the world, the mother takes care of each and everything for the child from the time it takes it first breath! Once she is a mother, all her fuss about even feces is gone and she cleans up the kid. All her focus is now just the KID. She actually does not expect anything from the kid now. She just has a feeling that the kid should grow well. It should be healthy. It should be happy... She sacrifices - in fact forgets her happiness. There is no happiness for her on her own. The child's happiness is her happiness. She starts living through the child. Its a wonderful thing to experience for any woman.

There is no doubt that mothers love is TRUE UNCONDITIONAL love.
Its all great! Now, how long does this continue? What happens when the child grows and say, around 20yrs or so.. Does the mom's love still remains the same?

Actually, it depends on how the kid is. Now, its not just one side anymore. A mother is also a normal human being. Living with normal emotions, expectations, desires, anger and so on..
If the child is no longer caring for the mom. If it just thinks about its own self and goes around for its happiness, do you think the mom will still love the kid the same way as she loved 19 years back?

Definitely not. And dont be surprised that its my Mom who told me this! (I feel that she is an enlightened soul!)

As and when the child grows, the mom does not live through the child. A line of separation starts to appear. Because, the child has its own identity. Its different from its mom. Its unique. But still of course the love is there. But the 'unconditional' may not exist!
So, if the child loves the mom - if its understands the mom and respects her and gives her what she needs, at least recognizes and thanks the mom for what it gets from her it will all be good. Else, even this mom-child relation becomes a normal one-one relation. No special meaning. But of course, what ever happened 20 yrs back is still true. There was unconditional love. But just that, its not there anymore.

When the separate identity starts to appear, the universal rule comes into play - give and take! Only when the child loves the mom, the mom is going to love it back. And even if you are going to say that "No she loves the kid all the time", it can be because, "Its her child. Her product!".

This is some kind of bitter reality! Not many will agree with me. I know one person who will agree for sure - Its my Mom!! Who explained me this fact!